Why are clients
so successful in using counter-fictions to cover up their hidden
intentions in interpersonal relations? Could fooling people be much
easier than we think? Recent research exploring neuroscience and
magic has unearthed a number of provocative explanations. Many of
these conclusions have been documented in a new book, Sleights of
Mind, by Stephen L. Macnik, Susana Martinez Conde, and Sandra
Blakeslee. These neuroscientists studied the techniques of magicians,
then connected what they discovered to the physiology of perception
and the psychology of anticipation.
As Adler points
out in his unique contribution to personality theory, the hidden,
unconscious, fictional final goal needs to be hidden from the bearer
as well as the victims of this self-serving, social exploitation. The
ease with which adults and children deceive others is mystifying,
until we understand the common neurobiological susceptibility to
being misled, not only by clever “sales tactics,” but also by our
own perceptual limitations. An individual's conscious awareness of
his real intentions might inhibit his momentum toward an intoxicating
ideal. The subliminal attraction of complementary counter-fictions
can be mistakenly interpreted as falling in love. A mutual awareness
of these superficially appealing counter-fictions and the hidden,
fictional final goals behind them, might cause two people to have
second thoughts about engaging in an ongoing relationship.
In Sleights of
Mind, the observations and theoretical conclusions of Macnik,
Conde, and Blakeslee have many parallels to Adler's model of the
personality, especially the idea that our brains constantly
anticipate the future. When faced with ambiguity or uncertainty,
clients fill in the blanks mentally with their preconceived ideas,
expectations, and unconscious desires.
Cognitive tricks are at work in
advertising strategy, business negotiations, and in all varieties of
interpersonal relations. (p. 8)
While clients are
not surprised to learn that advertising, business, and politics use
cognitive tricks, they are less comfortable adknowledging that they
use them socially against others and are victimized by others using
tricks against them.
A highly evolved maze of circuits
relies on approximations, guesses, predictions, and other shortcuts
to literally construct what might be happening in the world at any
given moment. (p. 15)
Private logic and
the antithetical scheme of apperception provide efficient shortcuts
that can bypass common sense and critical thinking.
By transferring attention, a
tremendous amount of suggestive power can be loaded into one tiny,
fake event. (p. 25)
We keep focusing on the tense
parts; we think that is where the action is. (p. 30)
Frequently, the
use of flattery or the misuse of negative feelings, emotions, or
symptoms can divert another person's attention away from a hidden,
disguised intention.
The brain is constantly making its
own reality whether it receives actual reality-driven input from the
senses or not. In the absence of sensory input, the brain's own
world-making keeps on working. (p. 50)
This “filling
in the blanks” is most apparent during sleep when dreams take up
the slack between the present and the future. Clients are always in
training, preparing themselves for an anticipated future.
Humans have the capacity for overt
and covert attention. If a person focuses our attention in one
direction, he may move in the opposite direction. (p.54)
A dog will look in the direction
we point to. (p. 58)
This management of attention not only helps in
selling a counter-fiction, but also helps to impress others with
symptoms that exempt the client from responsibility for cooperative
action. In other words, “I don't want you to concentrate on what
I'm not doing; I want you to concentrate on my symptoms.” Or, in
Adlerian terms, “... on my excuses.”
In a magic show we have the
difficult task of peeling away all the layers of misdirection and
figuring out the secret method. (p. 59)
The
psychotherapist has to meet a similar challenge, penetrating the
hidden lines of movement and avoidance underneath the mountain of
interesting but often irrelevant information.
A magician's success is in
diverting our attention away from the method and toward the magical
effect. (p. 61)
We will naturally follow the
larger, more salient movement. 'A big move, covers a small move.' (p.
61)
A client's
success is in diverting our attention away from his life style;
hidden, fictional final goal; and what he is avoiding. His symptoms
can distract and preoccupy us.
Misdirection may be designed to
make us complacent, bored, lazy, or not carefully attentive. (P. 64)
Repetition lulls the spectator
into mind-numbing habituation. (p. 65)
A client may try to wear us down with a river of
trivial details or repeated, minor variations of the same dynamics.
The impact can be almost hypnotic unless we know what to look for and
can guide him, through skillful questioning, to think about what will
really help him overcome a difficulty.
Joint attention is when we share
another person's experience by following his gaze and pointing
gestures. It can make us susceptible to magic tricks by exploiting
our impulse to pay attention to the same places and objects attended
to by the people around us. (p. 67)
This dynamic illustrates one of the limitations
of persistent, emotional empathy without the balance of critical
judgment. Adler demonstrated a remarkable combination of profound
empathy and healthy skepticism.
When our gaze stops on an object
and does not move, activity in our visual neurons is suppressed. The
object disappears! (p.70)
If therapists look merely at the “facts” in a
case, but do not translate the story into psychological movement,
they are literally blind to the significance of the information.
Adler emphasized the importance of viewing all psychological factors
as movements from a felt minus toward a felt plus, directed by a
goal. Without this understanding, therapists may be misled into
perceiving a diagnostically useless, static “snapshot,” instead
of a revealing, dynamic “moving picture.”
With inattentional blindness, we
fail to notice an object that is fully visible because our attention
has been directed elsewhere. (p. 73)
For clients,
failing to notice the significance of what is in front of them
illustrates the powerfully distorting influence of an unconscious,
fictional final goal. Almost like a “black hole” described in
physics, the hidden, final goal can suck everything, including
perception, into its powerful, gravitational center. They then see
only what fits their goal and everything else becomes invisible. This
analogy is most apparent when, as therapists, we observe a client in
the midst of a psychotic delusion, and less obvious when we observe
neurotic behavior.
Situational awareness is the
deliberate perception of everything happening in the immediate space
and time, the comprehension of its meaning, and the prediction of
what may happen next. (p. 80)
Unlike any other theory, CADP permits therapists
to reveal hidden intentions, uncover real meaning, and predict what
will happen if the client's fictional goal remains intact. This
prediction is facilitated by the assumption of a causal, future goal.
People believe hoaxes and rumors to
be true despite all evidence to the contrary, including denials by
their originators, if assertions of truth are repeated often enough.
(p. 102)
Clients also
believe their own world views to be accurate because they have
accumulated repetitive evidence which they have provoked, selected,
and remembered, ignoring or depreciating experiences that do not fit
their narrow vision of reality. Their compulsion to prove they are
“right” and others are “wrong” may cause substantial personal
suffering.
Each time a memory is used, it has
to be restored as a new memory in order to be accessed later. An old
memory is either gone or inaccessible. (p. 103)
The earliest childhood memory of
Jean Piaget was of nearly being kidnapped when he was 2. His nurse
defended him, and a policeman chased the suspect. It never happened.
His nurse made it up and the family repeated the story many times.
(p. 104)
Memory illusions stem from our need
to make sense of the world. We imagine an event and fill in the
details as needed. (p. 104)
As creative inventions, earliest childhood
memories provide one of the most fertile, projective sources for
understanding a client's style of life. Adler discovered that one of
his earliest memories could never have happened. The stability of an
early memory depends on an unchanging, fictional final goal. Once the
restrictive style of life and the compensatory, fictional final goal
are dissolved in CADP, the early memories spontaneously change.
Our beliefs, (all our cognitions,
also vision, hearing, and touch) are constructs of our learned
predictions. Perception is not a process of passive absorption but of
active construction. (p. 126)
The power of an underlying goal to influence
almost every function of the body is a double-edged sword. For the
client, that goal can result in personal misery and social damage, or
personal happiness and wide-spread social improvement. If that goal
merely attempts to provide personal, compensatory gain for some real
or imagined deficiencies in a person's childhood, and it remains
unconscious, unexamined and unchanged, it inevitably will provoke
isolation and conflict.
However, if that goal is raised to consciousness,
re-evaluated, and eventually dissolved in psychotherapy, the
individual can literally become a new person, not chained to a
child-like image of personal advantage, but liberated to an adult
vision of mutual benefit. Once the rigid, egocentric, hidden goal is
dissolved, the client can pursue a healthy direction, guided by an
inspiring value. This new direction will then impact all aspects of
his perception, as well as his thinking, feelings, and action. He
experiences this change as a widening of all horizons.
According to Piaget, the capacity
for empathy comes late in development. (p. 138)
For the client, this capacity also comes late in
the process of psychotherapy. Usually, the underlying feeling of
inferiority has to be diminished sufficiently for him to find enough
courage to tackle what he previously believed to be impossible. That
new feeling of authentic competence calms him down and softens his
defenses. However, he still needs to let go of the intoxicating
fantasy of personal superiority. This phase of therapy might require
progressively challenging questions about the assumed benefits vs.
the actual, negative consequences of pursuing the familiar,
cherished, fictional final goal. A client can develop real empathy
only if this inherently egocentric goal is dissolved. In some cases,
if he is unwilling to let go of this goal, he never develops genuine
empathy and stops therapy. Although he can act cooperatively on a
superficial level, he may never give 100% of himself to anyone or
anything.
Magicians want us to trust them so
they pretend to be vulnerable. (p. 192)
Magicians' banter is often about
the need for help (in sustaining the desired illusion). (p.192)
The client may
put on a display of vulnerability or ineptitude in order to elicit
sympathy, comfort, or as an excuse to avoid responsible action. The
display of pseudo-weakness can also be an effective counter-fiction
that lowers the guard of other people, prior to exploiting or
attacking them.
The road to success is practice,
practice, practice, and more practice. (p. 194)
If we practice a complex motor
skill daily for years, our motor maps increase in size. (p. 197)
Accomplished magicians don't need
to pay attention to their moves during a trick because the moves
become second nature. (p.199)
If we have something to hide from
someone else, we must not think about it in their presence or our
voice, gaze, or movements might give us away. (p. 199)
The repeated
patterns in the style of life become second nature. Because these
patterns are usually not conscious, the client feels less
responsibility for the consequences. New actions in a positive
direction require conscious deliberation and effort. Self-pampering
clients do not like expending the energy necessary to struggle with a
difficulty.
There are no new tricks. Nearly all
the illusions we see in magic shows were invented in the nineteenth
century or earlier by showmen in Europe, Asia, and America. Modern
magicians have been updating them ever since. (p. 205).
Most of the
neurotic tricks we see in clients have probably been around for
generations. Many could simply be learned by imitating family
members. Good magic as entertainment, or bad magic as social
manipulation, never get dated.
The magician makes us experience
the impossible by disrupting normal cause and effect relationships.
(p. 214)
The client is frequently able to bypass common
sense and social criticism by claiming exemption from responsibility
and consequences because of symptoms.
Illusions are not mistakes; they
are integral to perception; they are adaptive shortcuts our brain
makes to speed up or reduce processing. (p. 222)
To counteract mistaken shortcuts in our own
perception, we, as therapists, need to slow down, pay close attention
to what the client hands us moment to moment, feel the impact, and
question the purpose of his actions and emotions. Question, question,
question everything. Guessing is the key to eventual insight.
Not only are we influenced by our
biases, expectations, and assumptions, we also actively suppress
critical information. (p. 227)
The client is stuck in self-justifying patterns.
(In Adler's phrase, “He is stuck in his self-created stall.”)
Unless we provide benevolent, precise, critical input, he will
probably continue to go round and round in vicious circles. We help
him get “unstuck” by holding up an accurate mirror of his true
intentions.
If we make mistakes, we must set
them aside and keep moving forward. (p. 231)
Sound advice: A
client needs to try something different, rather than repeat the same
mistake endlessly in different scales, settings, and intensities.
Good magic used
for entertainment can be an enjoyable experience for the audience:
delightful, amusing, and pleasantly mystifying. However, personal and
interpersonal deception can make one person feel clever, but usually
results in others' feeling used, manipulated, or defeated. This is
bad magic.
Classical
Adlerian Depth Psychotherapy can help a client navigate more
effectively in life, by opening his eyes to the psychologically
magnetic fields of the fictional final goal and counter- fiction.
These “black holes” cause many of the personal and interpersonal
miseries of life.